Thursday, November 1, 2012

LEADERSHIP

This is more of a journal entry for me than anything. Just recently I was put in as the first counselor in Young Women's (for those that are not familiar with the program, it's geared towards the young girls in our church between the ages of 12-18. For more information, please see this website). It's been a complete 180 for me as I've been in primary, well, forever. As much as I LOVE our primary kids and working with them on a weekly basis, I was pretty excited to work with older kids. I've always thought it would be some much fun to be in Young Women's and bond with the girls. Well, now that I'm actually IN Young Women's, I have to say, I feel a little overwhelmed and inadequate. We've been in our ward for three? years now and that entire time we've been in primary. As a result, I don't really know many people in the ward. Which is hard when you suddenly have to learn the names of 30+ girls. I'm also learning that while I thought I had a pretty good grasp of the gospel, there is so much more I need to learn. I have to keep reminding myself that obviously the Lord placed me in Young Women's because right now it's where I need to be. I also need to remind myself that it's okay to not know everything or everyone right off and it will take time. But it's so hard! Since we have all new advisors, we had a training meeting tonight. The YW president read the following talk by Henry B. Eyring that I absolutely loved:

You Came for the Savior


Let me encourage you by telling you a story. It was told to me by my father. He told it with the intent to chuckle at himself. It was a story about his trying to do his duty, just the way you try to do your duty.

Now you have to know a little bit about my father. His name was Henry Eyring, like mine. He had done some of the things students of this university are preparing to be able to do. His work in chemistry was substantial enough to bring the honors some of you will someday have, but he was still a member of a ward of the Church with his duty to do. To appreciate this story, you have to realize that it occurred when he was nearly eighty and had bone cancer. He had bone cancer so badly in his hips that he could hardly move. The pain was great.

Dad was the senior high councilor in his stake with the responsibility for the welfare farm. An assignment was given to weed a field of onions, so Dad assigned himself to go work on the farm.

Dad never told me how hard it was, but I have met several people who were with him that day. I talked to one of them on the phone the other night to check the story. The one I talked to said that he was weeding in the row next to Dad through much of the day. He told me the same thing that others who were there that day have told me. He said that the pain was so great that Dad was pulling himself along on his stomach with his elbows. He couldn't kneel. The pain was too great for him to kneel. Everyone who has talked to me has remarked how Dad smiled, and laughed, and talked happily with them as they worked in that field of onions.

Now, this is the joke Dad told me on himself, afterward. He said he was there at the end of the day. After all the work was finished and the onions were all weeded, someone asked him, "Henry, good heavens! You didn't pull those weeds, did you? Those weeds were sprayed two days ago, and they were going to die anyway."

Dad just roared. He thought that was the funniest thing. He thought it was a great joke on himself. He had worked through the day in the wrong weeds. They had been sprayed and would have died anyway.

When Dad told me this story, I knew how tough it was. So I said to him, "Dad, how could you make a joke out of that? How could you take it so pleasantly?"

He said something to me that I will never forget, and I hope you won't. He said, "Hal, I wasn't there for the weeds."

Now, you'll be in an onion patch much of your life. So will I. It will be hard to see the powers of heaven magnifying us or our efforts. It may even be hard to see our work being of any value at all. And sometimes our work won't go well.

But you didn't come for the weeds. You came for the Savior. And if you pray, and if you choose to be clean, and if you choose to follow God's servants, you will be able to work and wait long enough to bring down the powers of heaven."

As in everything in life, I'm sure my time in YW will be hard, overwhelming and so completely worth it. I know it's going to take time, but luckily I have such a great support group with not only the women I am working with, but also with a wonderful husband. For those that have been in YW, what has/has not worked for you? Any advice or suggestions?